Is it wrong to ask?

I toyed with the idea of writing this post, however I just wanted to get it off my chest and also get others opinion on the matter. Since I have announced my pregnancy, I have had some absolutely beautiful comments, words and messages from people. However there have been a few judgemental ones too, mainly from acquaintances and people I barely know.

The main one I have been receiving is…”Was it planned”  and then usually a “Sorry, you’re just young so I wasn’t sure” following after. Firstly, it’s not really anyones business other than mine and my partners what it was. Secondly, why do people assume that because I am young, it cant have been planned? Another thing I’ve found strange is the shock on some people’s face when I tell them it was planned. I will be 23 when the baby is born is that really that young? I don’t think so…

Another comment I have had a few times which has confused me is “Are you happy/Is it what you want?” Of course I am happy and of course it is what I/we want! Why would anyone think otherwise? I’ve then had some “It will all be worth it” following the happy question. We would not be having a baby together if we were not happy and didn’t think it would be worth it.

I may be being over sensitive, but I just cant help but think if I were 5 or 6 years older, people would not be asking me if it was planned. I don’t want to come across as too touchy or like I am looking for any little thing to complain about I just feel like these questions are quite intrusive and assumptive.

What are your thoughts on the matter, am I being silly? Has anyone else experienced similar comments and assumptions?

Thank you for reading and I would love to hear back from you.

Love Lucy xx

8 Comments

  1. Sam

    My boss asked me if I planned it! Immediate palm to the face🤦🏼‍♀️ I got pregnant right after getting married I don’t know why that stuns people! We’ve been together 7 years and we planned a wedding for 2 years. We wanted to have a baby but I didn’t want to until I was married. Well guess what! Married! Got pregnant! And yes we’re thrilled about it. I swear people make up their own stories about others happiness/lives.

    1. lucymitchell95

      Congratulations how lovely! Yes people are strange sometimes and the questions I’ve been asked are crazy! It’s so wrong to assume I think. Thank you for commenting and take care x

  2. chloeastley

    I absolutely love this post! Why pregnancy was unplanned, but I still felt the same as you. So what if it was planned?! Some people make having a baby sound like such a bad thing, when it’s the best thing ever! Congratulations, by the way! X

  3. Tessa

    Loving your blog and Instagram! I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant and also 22, and all I get is ‘was it planned?’ ‘Was it a surprise?’ ‘Are you happy?’ It really grates on me as well! It’s no ones bloody buisness! Hope you’re well and congratulations! xxx

    1. lucymitchell95

      Thanks Hun, yeah it’s rather frustrating especially when it’s always strangers who ask. And when you tell people you are happy and then they congratulate you haha! Just ignore them and focus on yourself and your little bump babe. Congratulations to you too, take care xx

  4. Claire

    Just found your blog & i’m 26, been with my partner 4 years (he’s 30!) and we’ve recently announced to people we’re expecting. We’ve had several people ask if it’s planned (it’s was his mums first question!) so totally understand where you’re coming from! It puts a downer on the excitement! Xxx

    1. lucymitchell95

      Congratulations hun! It does a little you’re right however the further along I’ve got I’ve really forgot about those initial reactions and as long as you’re both happy that’s all that matters. Thanks for messaging and good luck Hun xxx

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