I toyed with the idea of writing this post, however I just wanted to get it off my chest and also get others opinion on the matter. Since I have announced my pregnancy, I have had some absolutely beautiful comments, words and messages from people. However there have been a few judgemental ones too, mainly from acquaintances and people I barely know.
The main one I have been receiving is…”Was it planned” and then usually a “Sorry, you’re just young so I wasn’t sure” following after. Firstly, it’s not really anyones business other than mine and my partners what it was. Secondly, why do people assume that because I am young, it cant have been planned? Another thing I’ve found strange is the shock on some people’s face when I tell them it was planned. I will be 23 when the baby is born is that really that young? I don’t think so…
Another comment I have had a few times which has confused me is “Are you happy/Is it what you want?” Of course I am happy and of course it is what I/we want! Why would anyone think otherwise? I’ve then had some “It will all be worth it” following the happy question. We would not be having a baby together if we were not happy and didn’t think it would be worth it.
I may be being over sensitive, but I just cant help but think if I were 5 or 6 years older, people would not be asking me if it was planned. I don’t want to come across as too touchy or like I am looking for any little thing to complain about I just feel like these questions are quite intrusive and assumptive.
What are your thoughts on the matter, am I being silly? Has anyone else experienced similar comments and assumptions?
Thank you for reading and I would love to hear back from you.
Love Lucy xx