Following on my my blog last week about my second baby worries, I thought I would write a little about some of the things I’m doing and changes I’m doing to try and make Ava becoming a big sister a smooth transition.
First thing we tried to sort out was her sleeping. If you’ve followed me for a while you’ll know we’ve been having issues for a bit with getting Ava to sleep through the night and then eventually getting in with us around 2am. I decided it was enough and it wouldn’t be practical when I was breastfeeding a newborn and needed to know at least one of them would sleep through! So I set a more strict bedtime routine and instead of holding her in my arms to fall asleep I started putting her straight down. The first couple of nights were tough, we were up and down lots before she drifted off but by the 3rd night she was falling asleep within 15 minutes of me putting her down. This helped with her wake ups through the night, as she was getting used to self settling. Now I put her in her cot at 7:30 after giving her a bottle and she’s usually asleep by 8, and will stay in her cot till 7 the next morning. It’s taken weeks or sitting stroking her back at 1am to get her to settle back off in her own cot but it’s paid off. I am so glad we decided to do that. She also naps for about 2 hours after her lunch.
I’m also trying to get her to help me out around the house, in hope that she will then help me out with the baby when she’s here so she feels involved. Ava helps me unload the washing machine and I give her socks to put on the airer. I do have to space them back out after she’s done them haha, but she’s still helping. She also hands me some things for the bags after we’ve been shopping. Hopefully once the baby is here she will want to help me bath her, fetch the wipes and nappies when I need to change her, just so she feels involved and not pushed out.
When I first found out I was pregnant, we got Ava her own dolly, it came with clothes, nappies, hats, bottles, dummies, all the typical baby stuff. She’s lost interest now but for a while she absolutely loved it, she would give it its bottle and bring its dummy for it, and try to put its hat on. I think this is a great idea, especially if you have little girls. It’s a lovely way to get them used to being gentle and how to act around a baby.
I’ve also got her this book from Amazon, it’s really cute and she likes flicking through it.
Another thing I’ve done is I’ve always brought her to my scans and midwife appointments. I know sometimes it’s not always practical or some places don’t allow young children in on the scans but luckily ours did. Again, she doesn’t really understand what’s going on or why were there but she sees the midwife touching my bump and I think she’s starting to understand somethings going on. She points to my tummy and kisses it a lot. Also when we see newborns now she points and them and then back at me. Maybe a coincidence but I’m telling myself it’s cause she understands haha!!
I hope this has helped or given you a few ideas or inspiration if you’re having your second. Ava is 19 months and I still don’t think there’s any way I can fully make her understand she’s going to have a sibling. I think you can worry too much and at the end of the day, nothing can prepare one so young to wake up one morning and there be a new baby there that they have to share with their mum and dad but doing little things and making small changes can certainly help make it a smoother transition.
What things did you do with your little one when you were expecting your second?
Thanks for reading.
Love Lucy x